Episode 012
What if the obstacles in your life were actually self-created loops of perception?
In today’s episode, Dr. Kelly Brogan takes us on a profound journey of self-inquiry, examining the ways we unconsciously create and sustain victimhood in our lives, relationships, and even parenting. We explore the psychological and physiological patterns that reinforce victim consciousness and how the body craves certain familiar emotional states—even when they don’t serve us.
Kelly shares a powerful dream that illuminated her personal victim patterns, demonstrating how we often seek validation for our pain rather than true resolution.
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(00:00:00) Introduction & Dr. Kelly Brogan’s Work
(00:00:55) The Uber Dream: How We Unconsciously Create Victimhood
(00:03:40) The Hidden Pleasure of Feeling Wronged—Why We Cling to Victim Narratives
(00:05:55) Emotional Addiction & The Sensory Dimension of Conflict
(00:10:53) The Role of Neuroception: How Our Bodies Interpret Safety & Threat
(00:14:49) Self-Gaslighting: The Internal Betrayal Keeping Us Stuck
(00:17:13) Reclaiming Perception: The Power of Seeing What’s Always Been There
(00:23:38) Saying No Without Justifying It—How to Honor Inner Truth
(00:30:26) The Paradox of Conscious Parenting—When Holistic Becomes Controlling
(00:35:40) Motherhood, Martyrdom & Devotion—Redefining What It Means to Show Up
(00:45:30) Breaking Free From Control—Letting Children Have Their Own Journey
(00:53:44) Letting Go of Rigid Identities—How Sobriety Exposed Hidden Resentment
(00:58:19) The Final Takeaway: Reclaiming Power by Rewriting Our Own Narratives
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emotional addiction and self-awareness
unconscious victimhood loops
how perception creates suffering
Kelly Brogan on healing identity patterns
neuroception and emotional safety
self-gaslighting and internal betrayal
conscious parenting pitfalls
reclaiming your narrative
motherhood and martyrdom
letting go of rigid self-concepts
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You can connect with Kelly Brogan MD at her website & Instagram.
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